Are You Happy?

I heard an interesting story this morning on NPR. It was basically refuting a decade-old study that found parenting leads to unhappiness. New research suggests it is the mundane daily tasks that make us unhappy – not the overall parenting. For example, changing a diaper may not peak your happiness scale – but spending quality time with your baby will.

That story got me thinking about the last four days I have spent with my kids. They didn’t have school Friday or Monday, so we took off from work and headed out to the cabin. Our family was joined by my best friend, her husband and their four kids. Collectively, that meant seven kids running around at all times.

The weekend was – in a word – great. It made me happy. But, if I go back and think about the 47 times my toddler threw a fit that he didn’t get to ride the snowmachine or the times my older kids were arguing over petty little things – I might be drawn to say I was unhappy in those moments. However, overall, the trip was fun. A lot of fun. The kids had a blast and made a lot of memories.

My own favorite childhood memories mostly involve camping in our trailer in Ninilchik. We’d go fishing, clamming or just play. It was a blast. I want my kids to have cherished memories like that. Our cabin offers that – a respite away from the day-to-day stuff. All we do is play, eat and sleep. Yes, all those things make me happy.

Are you happy? What leads to your happiness? What have you done today that has made you happy?

 

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8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Erin
    Feb 19, 2013 @ 15:20:17

    As a Stay at home mom doing the same tasks day after day can get a bit old, however what have I really got to complain about? After all God has blessed us with 3 healthy kids,I according to Dr’s was never supposed to have, The good lord woke me up this morning allowing me one more day on this earth, one more day to see my children’s happy faces first thing in the morning..one more day to hear “I love you mama”, one more day to hear them say “mama read to me, or will you play with me”? one more boo boo to kiss, more laundry, more dishes, 3 more meals to cook, bills to pay, spills to clean up..the list goes on, but I wouldn’t trade places with anyone..EVER I love my life, and each day that God allows to to spend on this earth brings me happiness. Putting the dishes on hold, to get on the floor, and play my little ponies with my 4 year olds….now that’s the life!! 🙂

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    • Mom Land
      Mar 01, 2013 @ 15:49:25

      Erin, you’ve got it made, sister! The good Lord does give us a brand new day and it’s ours to do with as we please. I’m glad he gave you three little blessings to love!

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  2. Paige
    Feb 20, 2013 @ 08:23:07

    I have three older kids, 27 and 29. We were blessed with a surprise, she is now almost 8. I was a stay at home mom for the older kids. I am a mom with a paid job for the youngest. Having been on “both sides of the aisle” I can say there are so many benefits to both. I have learned that you create the happy memories for your children. I am much more relaxed (re: older, wiser) this second go around of parenting. I have learned that the little stuff is just that. My eyes are opened to the bigger picture. Time spent with kids is more important than keeping the home spic n’ span. It is clean, but cluttered. And if I didn’t prepare dinner ahead of time, what harm is there having sandwiches, breakfast or popcorn instead?
    Now that we have a grandchild, and another due in April, our focus is making their lives memorable with us; Grampa, Grama and lil’ Aunty. Love grows.

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  3. Stephanie B.
    Feb 20, 2013 @ 14:37:21

    I have gotten a few chores done, that always makes me happy. Seeing as I don’t have kids yet, I don’t know that joy, but I am a stay at home wife and I love my me time as I call it, where I can do whatever I want, while hubby is away at work. Plus I’m looking forward to going to the gym. All of that makes me happy. Now to go battle the monster I call laundry.

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    • Mom Land
      Mar 01, 2013 @ 15:51:24

      Stephanie B., oh boy – you’ve got some fun ahead of you! Have some fun reading this blog – consider it homework, pre-reading, for the days when you do have kids! 🙂

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      • Stephanie B.
        Mar 01, 2013 @ 15:56:42

        I do have fun reading your blog, 🙂 I find it very entertaining I have laughed so hard so many times at something you have shared cause some of it reminds me of me when I was a kid.

      • Mom Land
        Mar 04, 2013 @ 13:10:05

        Stephanie B., good! That’s what I’m going for! 🙂

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