My daughter is going to that birthday party she never got an invite for tonight. That’s all fine and good – but my son is pissed. He wants to do something special, too. Enter the divided mama moment.
Part of me wants to tell him, “Your sister gets to have fun now. You’ll have a time in the future when you get to have fun, too, and she’ll have to stay home.”
Part of me wants to say, “Life isn’t fair buddy, get used to it!”
Part of this mama wants to scoop him up and tell him, “We’ll do something fun tonight, I promise!”
Okay. Fine. You got me. I said, essentially, all three of those things to him. His seventh birthday is next week and he’ll be showered in gifts soon enough, so it’s not like he’s really lacking that much by not going to an all girl swimming party.
I’ve noticed a trend though. At baby showers when a mom is pregnant with her second or third, someone will bring a gift for her older child. Or, for birthdays of an older sibling, the parents buy a present for the younger sibling to hold so they won’t be upset.
What do you think? Are we coddling our kids too much? Should we tell them to suck it up? Or, should we consider their feelings of being left out?